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How the sound of our autistic son’s laughter helps us dance

For us as parents of a child with additional needs, there are certainly many times to weep, times to be sad. But there is so much more to life than the tears if we are willing.

THE ADDITIONAL NEEDS BLOGFATHER AUTHOR Mark Arnold 04 APRIL 2019 19:00 h GMT+1
Photo: Caroline Hernandez, Unsplash, CC0

James has an infectious laugh; it is one of those laughs that can start as a chuckle, a little giggle, and then builds and builds into a raucous belly laugh that barely gives him opportunity to take breath.  All sorts of things can set him off; maybe something he’s watching on his iPad, once he totally fell about in laughter while watching the film ‘Mamma Mia’ at a point where Pierce Brosnan was ‘singing’ (ever the critic, our James!).  Sometimes it can be something we’re all doing together, he’s ever so ticklish too, but sometimes his laugh just shows us that he is delighting in the moment.



Like the other day, when James was stretched out on one of the sofas in our lounge, just enjoying being with the rest of the family.  A look of pure joy spread across his face and, as his laugh emerged, our mostly non-verbal autistic son said “Appy!! Appy!!”, and indeed he was (and so were we!!)  It reminded me of the words given to Job by his friend Bildad the Shuhite (also known as the shortest person in the Bible… think about it!):



“He will fill your mouth with laughter.  Shouts of joy will come from your lips.”  Job 8:21



 



Life was hard for Job, really hard, and yet here was the promise of joy and laughter to cut through the hard times.  Things can be hard for James too, especially at the moment, and so seeing him truly happy and filled with joy and laughter was such a precious moment for us all, one that we will treasure.



Like all of us, when James laughs it takes over his whole body…  what starts as a gleeful giggle builds to become something that rocks his whole body with laughter.  His arms often wave in the air, his face tries to contain his smile; he’ll almost stop, and then you’ll see whatever it was that started him laughing passing across his mind again, and off he goes a second time.  By now we’re all joining in, in the same way that the great comics could set a whole audience off by just a look, or a chuckle (think Eric Morecambe, or Bob Hope. See, you’re laughing already!).  By now, whatever the initial trigger for James’ laughter was, we’re all lost in the moment of collective joy and delight.



There are many wonderful sounds in the world… natural sounds like waterfalls, thunder, birdsong, or waves on the shore… man-made sounds like a bell tolling, a piano playing, a crowd cheering, or a cork popping…  But surely the sound of laughter is the sweetest sound, and the sound of our children laughing is the best of all.





Our son James.



There is something wonderfully therapeutic about laughter; it’s good for us to laugh.  Lord Byron was on to something when he said “Always laugh when you can.  It is cheap medicine.”  There is something healing about laughter, something about it that can sooth even the deepest of pain.



In his old age, Solomon, one of the greatest of Israel’s Kings, wrote the book of Ecclesiastes.  Perhaps looking back and reflecting on his own life’s experience, he wrote; “There is a time to weep, and a time to laugh.  There is a time to be sad, and there is a time to dance.”  Ecclesiastes 3:4 (NIrV)



He made a point that resonates down the ages to us today.  For us as parents of a child with additional needs, there are certainly many times to weep, times to be sad.  But there is so much more to life than the tears and hard times if we are willing.  Let us celebrate the happier times, the times to laugh, the times to dance, and cherish these times; remembering them, treasuring them, to look back on, as Solomon did, when harder times return.



And how we respond to this, whether we allow the better days, the fun moments, the times of laughter, and goodness knows even dancing, to heal our souls, will get noticed by others too.  If all they see are our tears, if all they hear are our woes, if all they understand is our sadness (and, by the way, there is nothing wrong in sharing those feelings, that is healthy too), then they don’t get to see and experience all of the delights of additional needs parenting too.  Those delights might be rare and fleeting for some, but that treasure is still there.



Sharing the happier times, the little victories, the fun, those moments where it all goes well, shares more of us; it allows others to see how God still gives us those moments of joy and hope in the midst of the pain…  It shows others why we don’t wait for the storm to pass, but learn to dance in the rain.



We join with what Ezra wrote when penning this Psalm; Our mouths were filled with laughter.  Our tongues sang with joy.  Then the people of other nations said, ‘The Lord has done great things for them’.”  Psalm 126:2 (NIrV)



Amen!



Mark Arnold, Director of Additional Needs Ministry at Urban Saints. Arnold blogs at The Additional Needs Blogfather. This article was re-published with permission.




 

 


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